Divorce is something that couples don’t foresee on their wedding day. However, sometimes there are issues within a marriage that means that the two can’t be together anymore.
According to recent stats, in the UK, 1.7 marriages per 1,000 end in divorce – a considerably lower amount than in the Maldives, where the number is at 5.52 per 1,000. If you’re among the 1.7, you might be finding things hard at the moment, especially if the decision to split wasn’t yours or things are acrimonious with your partner.
With so much going on, it’s likely you’re finding it difficult to concentrate at work. Should you need some tips to help you get through the work day, read on. Here, we look at the causes of divorce and ways to navigate your emotions at work.
What are the main causes of divorce?
There has been a significant shift in divorce law in England and Wales recently. Where before, couples seeking a quick split had to accuse their partner of unreasonable behaviour, adultery, or desertion, now it’s possible to provide a statement that the marriage is over without appointing blame.
This is significant because sometimes people simply fall out of love. While the three accusations may apply to some, this change to law makes it possible to move on in a more harmonious way.
However, there are instances where partners have cheated, leading to the marriage breaking down. Or one of the couple have behaved unreasonably, such as being financially reckless, or one partner might have simply walked away from the marriage.
There are also more detailed reasons for divorce that move beyond the traditional three. Everything from abuse and addiction to a lack of communication can all be the reason for the relationship falling apart.
How to stay focused
Whatever happened in your marriage, whether you’re on good terms with your partner or not, it can be hard to carry on as normal – because everything isn’t normal. To get through the day, it’s important that you acknowledge that things aren’t as they were.
From there, you can take practical steps to look after your own wellbeing. These tips will help you keep on track, not just at work, but at home too:
- Speak to your colleagues
By opening up to your boss and work friends, you’re letting your team know that you’re having a tough time. This means they can look out for any signs that you’re low and can potentially re-assign your workload if it looks like things are becoming overwhelming for you.
- Get a good divorce lawyer
Even the most harmonious splits can need legal support so take the time to research specialist lawyers in your area. Whether you’re based in Manchester or London, take the time to research specialist lawyers in your area so that you can offload the hard parts of the split to the professionals.
- Ignore messages
Use work as a distraction. Turn off your phone and leave messages and emails relating to your divorce until after work when you’re in the frame of mind to read them.
- Find support
If you feel like you need some mental health support, seek advice. You might have already been for marriage counselling. Try to source a counsellor just for you to help talk through your feelings. For more information and support services, try CALM.
Whatever you’re feeling, you’re not alone. Take the time to adjust and find a new way of living after separation.