Facing New Year’s Eve as a singleton can be a bit daunting but it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom, as a recent report from eHarmony reveals.
Any time of celebration can be challenging when you’re single but none more tricky than New Years which seems to be dominated by canoodling couples wherever you look.
To stop you from sinking into a vat of self-pity or loneliness here are some suggestions which will not only help you survive but could help you start the New Year in such a positive way that 2016 could become your best year yet.
Examine your options
Have you been invited anywhere? If you have and you’re avoiding going just because you’re single, ask a friend to go along with you. If you haven’t been invited anywhere team up with another single friend and scour the local press to find out what’s going on in your area. Wherever you live there’s bound to be some public place where there will be crowds of people, fireworks and good cheer. Putting yourself right in the thick of it can be exhilarating.
If neither of the above are options could you throw a spontaneous party at your place? An open door to neighbours, friends and family is a great way to loosen up and let life come to you. It doesn’t have to be grand or flashy just warm hospitality is enough, guests will usually bring a bottle (and a lump of coal if it’s after midnight).
Look good – feel great
Looking your best will often help you feel more confident in yourself. Go all out and dress as you would for a hot date – you’ve got one, it’s with life! Spend some time pampering yourself and grooming all those parts that often get neglected during the winter months. Wear your best under and outerwear and remember the Loreal tagline it’s all ‘because you’re worth it’.
Sexy is an attitude not a costume. By adopting a positive and proactive approach you will automatically appear more attractive to others. It doesn’t matter what size/shape or age you are it is all about how you think about yourself and your attitude to life. Happiness radiates from the inside out and draws people to you.
Let go of limiting attitudes and beliefs
The New Year is a time of reflection when we look at the year past and see if we’ve moved on and achieved the things we wanted to achieve. If you’re single you might have a sense of failure but don’t be disheartened. As the poet Rumi says, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
Maybe fear or lack of trust is holding you back. Perhaps you get lots of matches but never follow up on any of them. Now is the time to take a leap of faith, identify wha’s holding you back and resolve to let go of it. Writing it down on a piece of paper and throwing it in a fire or out to sea are rituals which many people practice at the turn of the year so they leave the old (attitudes and fears) behind and welcome in the new.
Make a commitment to happiness
Is your happiness dependant on outside circumstances? Do you only feel good when everything’s going your way? How would the year ahead be different if your New Year’s resolution was to be happy no matter what happens? The only thing we really have control over in life is our attitude towards it. Why not choose to be grateful for what you have; find the positive in every situation; to complain less; help others more and make more choices to do the things you love rather than just the things you should?
By changing your mind and the way you view the world you’re sure to have a very happy New Year, single or not!